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maestro on 20040512 um 1557 Uhr #206

Ok before i ask this question, please do not think i am judging you, telling you what you can/cant do nor criticising you for your decision. I would just like to know.

My question is this: Why self harm? this mainly heads towards letting blood.

I see letting blood as a form of self harming, to those who dont know this is a form of mental escape where the pain is more intense than the mental pain you may be experiencing. But in a lot of peoples cases, its not.

What is it about cutting/whipping/etc that ppl like? and why do you do it? Can you explain the joy/pain/happyness that you get from it, i personally could not contemplate cutting myself so all i want to know is why?

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maestro on 20040515 um 1429 Uhr #2227

normally i would adivse you to go and look somewhere else for an answer as we’re surely not here to justify ourselves but today i’m kinda mercyful…;)

the problem with your questions and especially with the constant “why” are that most of our communties grew tired of answering them, as the only thing giving answers will lead to are even more why’s

in short there are multiple reasons people might have for donating other people their blood, be it for pure sexual arousal or to deepen a bond between the two..etc.

It is NOT to be confused with self harm which mostly is a result of depression or an overall bad psychological condition ( or result of a kind of “fad” in the goth scene where wannabe’s cut themselves to show everyone the misery they claim to live through – but this is not to be taken serious and mostly stops with the age of 16)

but most things You described as self harm are in fact no self “harm” – in the clinical sense of harm maybe yes, as the body gets “harmed”, but i doubt SM people who love to get whipped look for a counterweight for their psychological imbalance! 😀
People generally like raw sex – some just like it as raw as it can get 😈

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maestro on 20040515 um 2020 Uhr #2228

i would just like to apologise for what i may have said, it was not my intention to suggest that letting blood is related to self harming. This was not what i was trying to convey.

But thank you for answering my question.

I personally try and look at things with an open minded view, and this was just another attempt to try and understand something that i dont.

Personally i dont see how letting blood can relate to deepening a relationship, as for sexual arousal, i also can not contemplate this, but these are my views.

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maestro on 20040516 um 0934 Uhr #2229

ah ic, sorry most people who ask those questions just ask them for the aforementioned reasons, as i said, you get used to it

Well many people regard the blood as the primary place where your bodies energy is stored, by giving your blood to someone else you give a part of yourself to someone else.
Your partner is normally just your partner while your child is your “flesh and blood” – if your partner has your blood he’s by that definition more than a normal partner, no?

The sexual arousal might come from the fact that having raw animalic sex with a predator that doesnt see more than prey in you seems to be a quite nice thing for some 😉

It’s the same as SM, some like to get whipped the shit out of them, some other dont even like if you touch them too hard, people have different tastes and this is one of them

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maestro on 20040516 um 1437 Uhr #2230

i honestly dont know what i would do if someone tried to whip me, but thats my so meh.

as for the explanation of why letting blood can deepen a relationship, i can understand that, its a way of sharing something vital with a loved one, and you cant get more vital than blood, oh wait, there is oxygen, CPR anyone?

but on that note i shall depart back to the sheep filled land.

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maestro on 20040516 um 1701 Uhr #2231

sleep well

well, as i said, different people, different likes, dislikes and especially different opinions and beliefs 😉

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maestro on 20040527 um 0639 Uhr #2232

there’s also a trust there too… not only is it an act that is deeply intimate, but there is also the fact you are letting your loved one loose on your body with a sharp implement.